Stop being the one who has bad things happen to them,
instead be the one who goes out of their way to do good things for others.
Be grateful even when you do not feel grateful.
Love even if you do not feel loved.
And be kind even when others have not been kind to you.
Pain is an illusion that tries to control the mind and stop your progression.
You are NOT how others have treated you.
When you learn to do this you will find you are a conduit of light and you will begin to attract more of that to you and those around you.